Ah, But I Was So Much Older Then, I’m Younger Than That Now…
#3daughtersspeak: A New Regular Feature of This Blog: My Three Grown Daughters Chime In On a Variety of Topics: Today’s Topic: Staying Young!
The post title is the chorus of Bob Dylan’s “My Back Pages.” It’s on my mind as Dylan turns 75 in May this year! In 1971, on my dorm room wall, I hung a Peanuts comic. Linus tells Charlie Brown Dylan is turning 30. He replies, “That’s the most depressing thing I’ve ever heard.” But I figured if Dylan was that old and still so cool and gifted, there was hope for us all. Listening to Dylan lyrics made me feel older, more sophisticated, and connected with a world larger than myself. I still listen but now they make me feel younger, more sophisticated, and connected with a world larger than myself.
I think if parents want children to age gracefully without fear, we have to show them how. I never told my daughters I couldn’t do something because I was too old. So, now, I ask my grown daughters, what do you do to stay young? How will you be younger in the future than you are now? Are you afraid of growing older?
Moisturizing. I got carded at a PG-13 movie when I was 23 years old, so obviously it’s working. Being a teacher and around kids at work helps me stay young, because we’re expected to be excited about little things and be creative – which keeps you young. I run and try to eat healthy, although I don’t think I do that to stay young as much as to stay healthy and to fit into my nice jeans. I don’t know how you get youngish people to not be afraid of getting old. I think there are a lot of things people expect from you when you’re older, and it’s a lot of pressure. What if you don’t have the perfect job, amount of money, social life, or living situation by a certain time? I guess times are changing (Note the Dylan pun) and those milestones don’t have to happen at a specific time any more, but a lot of young people still go by them, and that can be intimidating. Perhaps we need to remind young people that everything happens for different people at different times, and it doesn’t matter how old you are (or in my case, how young).
Other ways to stay or feel young: laughing, letting yourself have a good time, trying new things, and if that doesn’t work, just go to a bar where everyone is older than you.
As far as I’m concerned, I turned 21 many times, and each time was better than the time before, so I guess I am getting younger than I used to be.
I’d rather live in the present than worry about being older. Yes, I try to eat healthy most of the time and am desperately trying to find an exercise routine that I have the motivation to keep up with, but I have more important things to think about than getting older. I think if you live a life that makes you happy, it doesn’t matter how old you are. There are certain things I know make me happy in the present, and those are the things I try to focus on.
My friendships are very important to me. I grew into adulthood before I learned how to really maintain friends, and I’ve also learned how to distinguish good ones from the ones who aren’t worth my time. Spending time with people I have a good time with definitely makes me feel younger. Trying new things absolutely helps keep you young. Whether it’s retrying a food I thought I hated (turns out mushrooms aren’t so bad), or going to a new place, (Hello, New Orleans!), new experiences keep life interesting.
I haven’t gotten carded at quite as many PG 13 movies as Tamra has, but there have been many casual Fridays where I was mistaken for an 8th grader at work, so maybe I’ve got some idea of how to keep myself young.
Are you sure he wasn’t being sarcastic?
Because I think he might have been. Perhaps he even meant it takes being older to appreciate being younger. I know there are times when I yearn for the days when having my favorite dessert made my day and my biggest worry was if the boy I liked “like liked me.” So I think maybe we should consider perhaps Dylan had an ironic intention.
I think the thing about staying young is that because you’re young, everything is new. You’re filled with so much anticipation because you’re just learning about the world and how it relates to you. Now that I’m in the thirties I think about growing old a lot and it scares me. I exercise and moisturize for maintenance, yes wrinkles and cellulite offend me, and I am trying to combat the inevitable. I think the thing about being young and not knowing anything is that you’re excited for what awaits and as you get older it seems like many surprises are stressful.
I try to do new things and to be open to people. This is not easy; we all like things we are comfortable with. I’ve tried new activities, new friends, and even new responsibilities at work just to keep the anticipation going and to get things to be excited about. I think it’s easy to fall into a rut so I try to be conscious of that. I think the way to stay young is to do things that make you happy, which usually means doing a little self discovery.
Check in with me at age 36 and see if my thoughts have changed. I hope I’ll be the only one at Happy Hour getting carded.
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