An Oath For Grandparents and Other Real Grands
Some of our most revered jobs require taking an oath. Doctors, lawyers, civil servants, political office holders, and others swear to uphold the honor of their profession, to be loyal, to be conscientious, and to do a good job. Parents and grandparents don’t have to swear an oath but I think maybe it would be cool if we did. It would be a way of acknowledging the importance of the job we are about to take on.
For grandparents it might go something like this, based in part on the Hippocratic Oath:
To honor myself as a child, a parent, and now a grandparent, I commit to this covenant:
I will remember being a family member is an art and a science. I will recall what it was like to be a child and a parent and use those memories to guide my actions.
I will have the courage to advocate when I believe I’m right and admit when I am wrong.
I will enjoy life beyond the realm of being a grandparent.
I will show love, understanding, empathy, and affection to my child and grandchild while maintaining respect for boundaries.
I will use the thoughtful and considered wisdom of my experience and age to guide my actions.
For Mother’s Day and Father’s Day this year I’m going to give the parents of my grandchild (AKA my daughter and son-in-law) my signed oath to show them my plan to love and respect them, their child, myself, and our bond. Most importantly, I’m giving them my written pledge to support them without over functioning or interfering in the way they raise their children. I’m going to tell them they have my permission to show me the oath if I overstep, which I’m pretty sure I will from time to time. It’ll be a gentle way to remind me of my promise to support them without actually running their lives. If you’d like to use the oath, you can download the image and sign one or give it to a grandparent you love and sign it together. Keep in mind, too, that “Grands” today are not just literally Grandparents, they may be GrandAunts or GrandUncles. With families being spread around the globe, everyone is stepping up to help raise kids. You may be a grand by bloodline, by adoption, by marriage, or by a choice you’ve made. You’re “grand” if you’re helping raise kids and you can make this same pledge. Real Grands are anyone and everyone who wants to help bring up the next generation.
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