Death Stories Inspire
So, this morning I woke up to find my post about saying goodbye to someone you love when they die on the Huffington Post. I wrote it about parents, mostly, although the advice could work in many situations. I’ve heard from a great many people today and even did a radio interview on the topic. Suffice it to say, we all have a lot to say about death.
One man left a comment that touched me deeply. He shared the story about his estrangement from his mother. He said it had lasted many years until he heard she was dying. His plan was to go to the funeral to pay his respects. But, he discussed it with a mentor who suggested he not wait, but instead to go to see her before she died. Wisely, he heeded that good advice. He went and they were able to reach a form of peace before it was too late.
Before it is too late. That’s going to be the title of my next book, devoted to this topic. I can’t stress strongly enough the pain of family dysfunction and estrangement. So much of it can be avoided by artful, loving and honest communication before someone dies. That can be easy to do with someone you are close to. It’s anything but easy to do when you have challenges in the family. Family is what I write about here on this blog. If you’d like to read more about this compelling topic, please subscribe on the right sidebar. We have much to discuss and try to do so with humor and insight.
But, you don’t have to wait until you learn more to open this topic with your family. I implore you to talk about death, to talk about family issues and to find a way to peace, just as this man did. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for him to put aside his hurt feelings, his anger, his resentments and, yes, maybe even his pride.
I just believe you won’t be sorry if you do. However, you may be sorry if you don’t.
Before it’s too late.