Is Facebook Accusing Me of Lying?
Today I got a not-so-friendly note from Facebook accusing me of putting a false image on my profile. Okay, that wasn’t exactly what it said, but that’s the way I interpreted it. It said my profile photo hadn’t been changed for three years. Were they suggesting I was trying to fool people in some way by inferring– via the use of my outdated photo– that I hadn’t aged? And so what if that’s exactly what I’m doing? Isn’t that the whole point of Facebook, to put your best face forward? Well, my best face is three years younger than my current face. Deal with it, Facebook! And, isn’t this the pot calling the kettle ironic?
Clearly, pretty much no one posts real life on Facebook. That’s not the point, is it? On Facebook, life is “virtually” wonderful. Don’t most folks put up posts about good things — yummy foods they’re eating (I must admit that stuff puzzles me, who wants to see photos of your meals?), fun festivities they’re attending dressed to the nines, great friends enjoying good times together, adorable photos of their kids and grandkids (I’ve not yet seen a funny-looking kid on Facebook and yet we all know they’re out there), concerts they have tickets to and you don’t, trips to exotic locales you’ll likely never visit, great books they’ve read (while you haven’t read a book in two years because you’re…well…living, working, etc.), works of art you don’t remotely have the talent to create (well, maybe you do but I don’t). Even people who claim they’re putting up bad photos (ooh look at this bad haircut I got!), would not put those up if they believed they truly looked hideous, they’re just hoping folks will say they look good. (Not that there’s anything wrong with fishing for compliments. I’m all about taking positivity in any way you can get it.)
So, Facebook, you can take your opinion of my misleading photo and shove it. I see the irony of your ways and I am not falling prey to your insistence that I be authentic or genuine! I looked pretty good in that picture and if you think I’m going to put one up in which I look worse, well, let’s just say I’m way too shallow for that. And, that is genuine.
Facebook isn’t the place to attempt to get to know anyone’s real personality. If you want that, read his or her blog. On blogs, we don’t hide, especially not if we’re prolific. It’s too hard to keep up pretense that often in that many words! Bloggers, overall, write from the heart, from the head and from a place of genuine consideration.
But, if inquiring minds really want to know what I look like more recently, here’s a new-ish photo. This is only about a year old so I’ve got some time before Facebook accuses me of anything.